Are You Longing for Things of the Past?
Have you looked at your current life and longed for what is now the past? For some reason we do that. Something about this new and uncertain life makes us want to run and hide. The familiar of the old beckons us like a warm blanket. We allow our thoughts to draw us to believing life would be perfect “if only I could go back to the way things were.”
note: if your loss is fresh, or the loss of a person–allow yourself to grieve. Cry, miss, long for! That is normal and supposed to happen. As time goes on, if you realize you are ‘stuck’ longing for the past and not engaging in your present–you may be rejecting the new life God has for you
The Truth About Going Back
The truth is–there is no going back. If you could go back, things wouldn’t be the same. YOU wouldn’t be the same.
What would the children of Israel have faced if they had actually returned to Egypt?
They would have returned to a nation whose ruler had been killed, seemingly at their hand. Do you think there would have been a happy reception?
Just returning would have been practically impossible. Were they going to return the way they came?
Would God have split the sea for them to return to slavery. I’m certain that if they were going to return to slavery, He would have left them to find their own way back.
The Dream Does Not Match the Reality
For seven years I had a position at a company I loved. My position was eliminated and I had to start over elsewhere. I’ve often longed to go back and pick up where I left off, building a great program.
I recently returned for a visit. Things were familiar, but they were different. Different managers, different furniture, even different coffee. I was out of place. Even though at one time this had been MY place and MY space, my heart and mind let me know that is no longer the case.
Treasure What Was, Embrace What Is
I need to treasure those years I spent with the company. Treasure what I did and learned. I even need to treasure what it meant to me in that season of my life. But that is as far as it goes. It was a part of THAT season–not this one. I could try to force it to be a part of this season, but it just wouldn’t be what I want it to be.
God has called me (and you) to a new season. This new season may look scary and daunting. Uncertainty and unfamiliarity are sure to prevail at some point. It very well may have giants in it that we are certain will crush us. But that is not where your story ends!
God has brought you to this place. He has not abandoned you or sent you to a land that is meant to destroy you. This new land, new season, is an opportunity for God to meet you in very special ways. Will you trust Him and His Word, or will you be consumed with the desire to return to the old?
This post is part of a 31 day series on Hope for Grieving Hearts. To see all of the posts in this series, click the button below. Thank you for reading. I hope you are blessed and encouraged.
I love this, Tammy. We do long to go back, rather than finding God in the present moments. I do believe it is a comfort thing, familiarity is more comfortable than new seasons.
XO
Tammy
Thank You! This post spoke to me today. Change is hard!
These thoughts are so true. God closes doors and open new ones in all seasons of our lives. I loved this line: “This new land, new season, is an opportunity for God to meet you in very special ways. ” I loved it so much that I tweeted. Thanks for your faithfulness in writing this series.
Mary, I’m so glad this spoke to you. This is another post I was nervous about because of the message. Thank you for confirming that I heard from God and that the message is His truth. Isn’t it beautiful when we God meets us in that new season?
Change is hard, and painful. We are drawn to comfort of the familiar, even if the uncomfortable of the new holds new blessings. Praying for you as you adjust to your new normal.
LOVE this, I have been grieving the church we left, to move into a new position and space that God called us to. Great to read this today x
I’m so sorry your heart is sad. Praying for God to comfort your grieving heart and allow you to fully embrace the beauty of today’s calling.
From Micah Tyler’s “Different”
…I don’t need to recognize, the man in the mirror
And I don’t wanna trade Your plan, for something familiar
I can’t waste a day, I can’t stay the same
I wanna be different
I wanna be changed…
Lord, may we realize and accept that your plan, no matter how different and scary, is far greater than the comfort of familiar. Give us the strength to go forward boldly in faith to the future you have prepared for us. Amen
YES! It can be so difficult sometimes. New seasons are hard, especially because we have to leave some things behind–but God restores us as we follow and seek Him